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Desperate For Change But Frozen By Fear…

Making a life change is no joke.   It’s one thing to dream about a different life but to take the leap is a whole other beast.  

The beast is FEAR.  This is where most people will give up.

First our heart speaks and we have this exhilaration of excitement of how incredible life could be.   THEN, our brain kicks in and fills us with fear.   We think about every single thing that could go wrong.

The thing is, there is an evil force in this world working to defeat us through our minds.   It tells us we are not good enough, that we aren’t smart enough, that we will fail, that no one will like us.   This evil voice tears us down and discourages us through fear, anxiety, lack of self worth, and panic.   

When you find the voice of your heart (God) and you are pulled to follow it, the evil will attack with full force to stop you from doing good and living on God’s path he created special for YOU.    That is why immediately after you get an exciting calling from your heart…your mind follows with all the reasons why you can NOT do it.    

I’m a pretty daring person and I’ve taken a lot of risks in my life that other people told me were insane.   But when it came to fully taking that leap into my dream life, I kept making excuses or pushing it out a little further even though that is the complete opposite of what my heart wanted.  

I kept holding on to what I perceived as SAFETY.

The truth is the longer we listen to the panic of our brains the longer we remain stuck. 

Following your heart and following your life path has no roadmap.  It requires faith.   That’s HARD!!   We all want a plan right?   But when you follow what your heart is leading you to do, the next step is revealed.   It doesn’t just happen all at once.

Once you start playing with this awesome adventure, you will find that the Universe starts working with you and not against you.   Doors will open, you will be given favor with people, money just shows up out of the most random places.  

The cool part is there are no limitations.   Nothing follows human logic.   Things just work in your favor as you stick to the course.

I’ve been there.   I get the fear and I get being scared to death of everything that can go wrong.   But you don’t have to take a big scary leap from the get go.   Start with small steps towards what your heart is pulling you towards.   It will give you a chance to slowly build up trust in the process.

There have been times in my life where I just dove right into the unknown.   I can be crazy like that.   I can tell you that NEVER ONCE did everything fall apart.   The Universe always caught me before I fell.

But when it came to the BIG ONE…which was to start my own internet business and quit my soul sucking corporate job…it was a different story.    I took baby steps.   

It’s been an 8 year process to even figure out that I was supposed to start my own business and what that business would be.

But I kept moving forward following those smaller callings of my heart.   Those are what led me through what I needed to learn, clues to what I was good at, views of what I loved to do, and things I needed to change in my life.

THEN….the bigger picture started to be revealed.   That’s when I moved towards the bigger goal but still one step at a time.  I had to work through my fears and insecurities and just do things afraid!   That is where my largest growth happened.

The thing is, as long as you keep making progress forward, you are on your way!  It’s going to get scary…keep going.   That is where the big amazing change happens.

If you have an adventurous soul like I do, think of the process as an adventure because that is truly what it is.   It’s like a fun scavenger hunt with God where you have to take certain steps to get to the next clue.   It’s fun!

The best part is when you look back at all that’s happened and your eyes fill with tears in AWE of the magic that has occurred.

Still scared of change?   If you are it’s OK!   Most people are so you are NORMAL. 

The key is to shift your mindset to look at all the amazing possibilities that could come your way instead of focusing on all the things that could go wrong.

“Today is your day, your mountain is waiting. So get on your way!”  – Dr. Seuss

Go find your adventure!


This Post Has 8 Comments

  1. Fear can be a stumbling block but only if you let it be. I, too, have slowly been pursuing my goal of having an internet business. It is scary some days but other days it is very fulfilling! I am with you on giving up the 8 to 5 gig. Best thing I ever did.

    1. Denise @ Adventure Of My Life

      Love it Loretta! I agree on all points. Fear is such a HUGE stumbling block for the majority of people, it has been at some point for all of us. Congrats on leaving the 8-5 and starting your business! Let the adventure begin 🙂

  2. Holly

    I feel like you are reading to my soul! I heard someone say there is no need for Faith without Fear. I have Faith but I gotta tell ya, Fear is mighty powerful. I know my Faith is stronger but it’s a daily battle right now. Your article made me feel less alone and is much appreciated! I need to stop thinking and starting doing! 🙂

    1. Denise @ Adventure Of My Life

      Thank you my soul friend! I love that…no need for faith without fear. That is so true. Which makes it even more clear that God wants us to step out in fear and trust him. 🙂 You are NOT alone! That is a lie we tend to believe that comes from our minds. I have felt the same but the truth is that we are ALL struggling with fear every single day. Most of our choices are made based on fear of something and we don’t even realize it! Holly, I’m here to support you my friend. Thanks for your authentic vulnerable comment. Hugs! GO GET IT! 😀

  3. Angela

    Great post. I have owned my own business for 23 years, it is so rewarding. Now the fear of change has us looking at new adventures. The COVID is affecting our business significantly, we are fearful of what changes are coming our way in the future for our existing business which is making us look at other opportunities. The crazy thing is we were looking at new adventures for our future anyway, now we are feeling forced. It may be the universe pushing us. (also the Universe played a big part in our existing business success, we threw alot out there and reaped rewards from it)

    1. Denise @ Adventure Of My Life

      Thanks Angela! I so feel you. I’m actually getting ready to write a blog on the changing of seasons in our lives…learning to let go when it’s time and learning to embrace the new! I’m so very sorry that COVID affected your business. But it’s obvious that the Universe is moving you guys towards the adventures you were seeking (justification). So cool to hear. I’d love to hear how your story unfolds! 😀

  4. jenn

    Great job for overcoming your fear and just doing it! Its so hard. I have really had to work on not letting fear control my life. It can be an everyday battle or it can pop out of nowhere. I realized the other day that I was letting the mindset of: staying where I am is my safe place (fear of moving forward) rule. Recognizing fear is a great place to start but then we have to do something about it. Thanks for sharing 🙂

  5. Michele

    Such truth in this post! Fear is such a huge part of any change. But if we face it head-on and don’t let it win, we will have accomplished great things! God has a purpose for everyone, and we cannot let fear hold us back from reaching His calling on our life! Little steps are key!

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